12 November 2009
Group 2: Wailing Wall, Ritual
Education during the Sunday School morning depicted in this week’s reading contained a great deal of ritual, both explicit and habitual. Ritual was significant both in the classroom environment (students led by teacher), as well as within the educational leader herself.
In the classroom, intentional ritual included such elements as:
- setting the learning space: welcoming and introducing the students, separating those who routinely interact distractively, three-fold “preparation for learning” (relaxation exercise, loved and chosen identity exercise, ‘good story’ from the Bible read), and clapping for attention;
- symbolic rituals: lighting a candle, ritual positioning for prayer; and
- enacted rituals: public mourning ritual of wailing, letting go exercises of markers object lesson and paper-cramming, building a wall in which their larger community will participate with them.
The educational leader also practiced her own rituals, bringing them in at various levels of effectiveness in the learning environment: preparation of materials prior to Sunday morning, letting-go prayer ritual of stuffing written prayers (which the full class shared in), relaxation exercises (questionable success with energetic young boys), and the loved-and-chosen exercise of unconditional acceptance and identity (wildly successful with the class). The leader also yearns for her own “grown-up” church rituals at the pivotal point in the chapter at the peak of her frustration that her teaching is not getting through to the amateurs, recognizing how her ritual needs differ from the children’s needs. Finally, a mental ritual practiced by the leader is the ritual of worry and anticipation of continued bad news.
A point that remained unsettled for us as a group was that of the comment about the loved and chosen ritual: “each of them turned out to be loved and chosen, which does not happen so often.” If the author means that each of the children are loved and chosen every time this ritual is performed in her classroom, as opposed to their experience in the outside world, then this would seem a good reinforcement of God’s unconditional love. If, however, she means that this morning they were all loved and chosen, as opposed to other Sunday mornings, when some are excluded, then this would seem a very dangerous practice: are they loved and chosen more when they behave properly? Does God play favorites? And so forth.
Christian meaning is embodied in many of these rituals as the class learns about God. For example: welcoming and introductions is thematic for the expanding relational koinonia of Christ’s body (though the early class period of isolated-learner chair-sitting works against this somewhat); loved-and-chosen is central to our identity as unconditionally loved children of a God who initiates relationship prior to our behavior, out of which we are free to live in community with other equally-loved children of God; lighting a candle reminds us of Christ as the light that we are to carry into the darkness; and releasing our prayers to God not only fulfills our emotional need to feel good but in fact enables God to act in God’s ways outside of our control, and invites the children into prayer as frank relationship with God. It was noted in our discussion that the symbolically-enacted learning points are worth discussing explicitly in relation to how God is at work in our lives (in ways the children can hear, as opposed to the opaque adult generalization of the letting go exercise). Otherwise, to use “loved and chosen” as an example, the students may simply learn that the leader loves and chooses them.
We are asked to select the most important aspect for the educational leader to focus on in this situation. Our responses all centered around the work of God: from emphasizing the affective need filled by God in the central identity of being loved and chosen, to recognizing the limitation on our ability to participate as best as we can in the learning environment and then releasing the learning in prayer, to the work of the Holy Spirit. A centering verse from the Psalmist may be helpful: cease striving (be still) and know that I am God. From our identity as children of God we can live in freedom to do all things in Christ who strengthens us, in the power of the Holy Spirit who unites us in community.
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12 November 2009 at 9:33 pm
Group 2,
The rituals is this narrative where rich. You did excellent at capturing them in the context of learning. When I read the love and chosen piece, I too had to stop and reread it. I don’t think Lamott was saying that only a few chilren where selected each Sunday. First, I don’t think she could get away with chosing only a few kids,when she only had a few kids to begin with. Then there would be the chilren themselves saying, What about me!! I think what Lamott was getting at is how often our chilren/people don’t get told often how they are loved and chosen in such a concrete way. Then the fact it came from a teacher is pretty special.
Great post!
13 November 2009 at 1:08 am
Focusing on rituals in this situation is interesting as young children do well with rituals, routines, and repetition. They feel safe when something is familiar and they know what to expect. I think the teacher meant that they are loved and chosen always unconditionally by God, not based on their behavior, but as opposed to what we all experience in the world. We understand that she meant that each child was loved and chosen by God, but, as you mentioned, that should probably be made explicit to the children. It cannot be assumed that they understand that, and would be very easy for them to think that they are loved and chosen by the person who said the words to them (the teacher). I loved the statement about how God loves us and initiates relationship before any action on our part. This is crucial for everyone to know deep in their very being. Thanks for your thoughts!
13 November 2009 at 11:01 am
Just as Jacqueline mentioned, I too think that the focus on rituals is important for children. The section on being “loved and chosen” was interesting. When initially reading the story I did not of being “loved and chosen” in the terms you described, but I think it is good to think more deeply about it. It will be important for the teacher to be clear about what is underlying the ritual of being loved and chosen and what is being said about God.
13 November 2009 at 11:25 am
group4 says...
A wonderful response to the reading regarding ritual within the context of Anne Lamott’s chapter. I really enjoy her writing. I took only that the chosen part of the morning exercise was that of God and we are all chosen individually. I do agree it would be good to say that this was God’s message to us all. I think Lamott’s love for worship in her own life reflected how ritual is significant in our time with God and community. Karen Treat
13 November 2009 at 5:04 pm
In reading my previous comment I could see where it seems liked I only connected the exercise,Loved and Chosen, to be between Lamott and the Children. I did take it to mean that it is God who loves and choses us. Lamott didn’t clearly convey that, however I thought it was also significant for the chilren to be told by Lamott that they are loved. Even if they only understand it from the view point that she loves them.
13 November 2009 at 10:41 pm
I like the addition of some verbiage that helps the child connect God with being loved and chosen. I totally missed that when I read through Lamott’s retelling of the lesson story in the Wailing Wall chapter of her book. I think that just goes to show that we take these things for granted and think that the children know what we mean – but of course – just like us it needs to be explained. Great catch!!
14 November 2009 at 9:41 pm
In reading these comments, I see that my own wording left the focus off an important point worth stating explicitly: as Rebecca notes, it is (also) important for the kids to feel loved and chosen by their teacher — connected, but also independent of this teacher’s loving and choosing as a sign pointing to God’s loving and choosing.
15 November 2009 at 3:48 pm
hessma says...
I do think that Anne Lamott intends always for ALL the kids each week to be loved and chosen, and to thus help to enflesh that message. I think the rituals help to make that clear, and communicate on levels larger than verbal. In fact, far too often I think we try to “put into words” to “make explicit” much that is conveyed in deeper and more effective ways without words, or with only a few words. That message needs to be congruent over time, however, to be understood — which is part of why ritual becomes important, because it is repeated, embodied action.